A good woman keeps her home.
Don’t argue, just get on your knees.
Bridle your tongue.
SUBMIT SUBMIT SUBMIT!!!!!!
Marriage is not an award o, it’s not a medal, it’s not an achievement, it’s not a punishment, it is not a cross to bear(Jesus bore it all) it is not a longsuffering training ground.
Not everyone will get married, not everyone will marry a great spouse, not everyone will stay married. These are things that happen in life.
Situations, environment, age and time will change your spouse and it will be very sad if you act/react to them the way you used to. People evolve, it’s in our basic nature as humans, adaptability is essential here.
Our foremothers have been with our forefathers and they are happy? Really?? But were you not a witness to how your foremothers were treated, how much shit they took all in the name of “doing it for their children” do you have selective memory? How dare you turn around and blame “women of nowadays”!
Social media has made domestic violence stories more accessible and may give the impression that it’s a new phenomenon but domestic violence is not a new “fad”, please don’t come at me with the “it’s this generation” talk.
A man who hits a woman is a COWARD!
A woman who hits a man is a COWARD!!
Don’t even get me started on the emotional abuse side of things and how some people will tell you to be thankful he’s not physically hurting you. Aha really? Did you know emotional abuse also has a physical impact and can eventually result in death? You didn’t? Okay conduct your research and come back to me.
Please, whenever you’re airing your views about domestic violence be wise, your words might just become a barrier to someone getting help.
If someone comes to you about this issue, please don’t ask them to pray, watch war room, fast until their bones are sticking out.
Please offer them shelter, money, a cup of tea, a listening ear, a hug, connect them with the proper authorities that can help them,research what can be legally done.
Don’t send them off with one of those empty placating phrases:”It is well”, ANYTHING but those words please and if you genuinely don’t know what to do, you can offer to join them in finding out what PRACTICAL steps can be taken.
Today’s post is in support of the 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence which is an international campaign that takes place every year and runs from 25th November; the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, to 10th December; Human Rights Day.
It was created by activists at the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute in 1991 and is coordinated each year by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership. You can read more about how the campaign started here.
In support of this civil society initiative, each year, the United Nations Secretary-General’s campaign UNiTE to End Violence against Women calls for global action to increase worldwide awareness and create opportunities for discussion about challenges and solutions(UNwomen, 2016). You can read more about the campaign here.
The theme for this year is: Orange the World: Raise Money to End Violence against Women and Girls’
You can donate to support the cause here: https://donate.unwomen.org/16days/
As I mentioned earlier I was deliberate about today’s #MondayRantday selection and using this platform to support and create awareness for this campaign in my own little way.
We must speak up against Gender-Based violence and this change begins with us as individuals; championing the cause for the girl-child and women at large. Constantly speaking out and challenging stereotypes within our society especially the one we live in;Nigeria.
That’s it quirkies, see you on Wednesday with another addition to the #Yumday collection. Until then, keep on transforming lives with your beautiful smile.
Talk to y’all later xxx